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A New Debate About Friends‘ Ross & Monica Is Dividing the Internet

Cue our best Chandler Bing voice: couldFriends be any more iconic? In the latest example of the show’s continued cultural relevance, writer and comedian Emily Heller started a fan war over one of the beloved series’ main characters — more than a decade after its last episode.

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If you need to a quick reminder, Friends aired on NBC from 1994 to 2004 and was one of the best sitcoms ever created. Please do not try to argue this particular point. You will lose (or at least we won’t listen to you.)

So if fans are all in agreement there, what’s the hitch? Enter Heller, who tweeted a simple yet provocative theory on Sunday.


“Just realized they HAD to make Monica & Ross brother and sister otherwise all the F.R.I.E.N.D.S would have stuck with Carol in the divorce,” Heller wrote. And, well, that was enough to send superfans into a frenzy. In Friends-speak, “the one where Heller racked up over 40,000 likes and 7,000 retweets.”

Some fans agreed wholeheartedly, treating Heller’s theory as the gospel truth.


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Other fans leaped to Ross’ defense.


Many pointed out the logistical issues with Heller’s statement — as in why would Ross’ friends pledge their loyalty to his ex?


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As for Heller, once she realized the nostalgic divide of apocalyptic proportion she’d created, she attempted to clarify her original comment. “Truly meant this not as a Ross burn but a Carol compliment,” she explained, albeit after the internet lay in ruins.


If we were to unpack the theory, we’d probably have to admit Heller’s theory does have some merit. Yes, we understand that some of the characters — namely Chandler and Joey — met Monica through Ross. However, if we’re really rolling with this alternate universe theory, that could still stand. Monica and Ross would be friends who introduce each other to each other’s friends, right? In that world, Carol may have enjoyed a more meaningful arc on the show and endeared herself to more fans.

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However, this would only work if Carol became Monica’s best friend in that universe. Then, we could see Heller’s theory playing out.

Why would Ross’ friends side with Monica (and by proxy Carol)? Aside from the fact Monica was arguably the best character, let us count the ways. Joey would probably stick around just for the grub. Could he actually survive without Monica feeding him? Debatable. Chandler would have fallen in love with Monica either way.

The ladies aren’t as cut-and-dried, though. Phoebe never really cuts anyone out of her life (exhibit A: her horrible twin sister, Ursula). And Rachel, well, we’d have to edit out several seasons worth of episodes if her relationship with Ross never transpired.

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So even though Heller makes an intriguing point, it doesn’t stand for one simple reason: Friends wouldn’t be Friends without the inimitable Ross Geller, for better or worse.

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