Yes, You Can Achieve Multiple Orgasms — These 8 Expert Techniques Will Take You There

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For some of us, having multiple orgasms in one sex session (sexession?) is like climbing the Mount Everest of pleasure — the highest sexual high you can feel. However, Stella Harris, intimacy educator, sex coach, and author of Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships, tells SheKnows that multiple orgasms can be a bit of a misnomer. “The orgasms don’t necessarily happen one right after the other,” she explains.

Multiple orgasms come in a variety of formats. For people with vulvas and vaginas, Harris notes that sometimes one kind of orgasm is one-and-done, but another may allow them to keep going. “For example, maybe someone can only have one clitoral orgasm but can have multiple internal (or G-spot) orgasms. Or vice versa,” Harris says. (And yes, there are different types of orgasms — six, to be exact!)

Meanwhile, some people can have a series of less intense orgasms followed by a bigger one to top it off, explains Dr. Jess O’Reilly, Astroglide’s resident sexologist. “Others find that each orgasm becomes more intense, while others find that the intensity decreases with each orgasm.”

Anyone who’s ever had an orgasm can agree that they are a good time — so who wouldn’t want to experience them multiple times? But sometimes we can get so caught up in that goal that we don’t enjoy the moment — or put so much pressure on ourselves that we ruin our chance of coming at all, let alone more that once. It’s best to just stay present. “There is no right way to have an orgasm or experience multiple orgasms, so just do what feels good for you and enjoy the process rather than keeping count,” says O’Reilly.

Still, trying for multiple orgasms can be a fun challenge for you and your partner(s), so if you want to give it a try, here are some tips to improve your Big O odds:

Try it alone first

“The first time I had multiple orgasms was through self-pleasure,” shares Tara Suwinyattichaiporn (aka Dr. Tara), PhD, a sex and relationship coach, sex expert on TikTok, and professor of relational and sexual communication at California State University Fullerton. It makes sense; as Dr. Tara tells SheKnows, “there’s no pressure to come fast or to perform for another person” when you’re masturbating. “You can take as much time as you need,” she explains. “You can use your fingers or toys. You can change to a different toy if the first one you picked isn’t stimulating the right way. It’s an easier way to explore.”

Apply constant pressure and stimulation

“Much like the G-spot orgasm, it requires a consistent and constant stimulation to get closer to multiple orgasms,” Mackenzie Riel, sex and relationship expert for TooTimid.com, tells SheKnows. Riel suggests the best way to make the most of this would be to get yourself to orgasm, but as you start to come down from the orgasm, keep the stimulation going. “It will help keep you aroused as you reach for round two.”

At the same time, Riel says, you don’t want to go overboard. “Sometimes overstimulation will have the adverse effect of getting you to orgasm again,” she explains. “Listen to your body and try to feel it out; only you know what it takes to get aroused enough to reach climax.”

Try a new approach (or two)

Although there are no moves or techniques that will guarantee multiple orgasms, O’Reilly suggests considering these approaches:

Press and Pulse: When you feel orgasm approaching, press your hand over your lips to cover the entire vulva. Pulse in rhythm with your orgasmic contractions and see if the contractions become more intense or multiply to prolong the orgasmic experience.

Try fingering. It’s an oldie but a goodie! Sometimes a bit of skillful fingering is all it takes to get you to an orgasm (or two, or three), whether it’s you or a partner getting you off. “The G-spot, or the G-Zone as it’s really bigger than just a spot, is a few inches inside the vagina — and sometimes it’s easier to feel the ridges with fingers than a toy or a penis,” Dr. Tara explains. “I’ve had multiple orgasms through my partner fingering me and it’s one of the most reliable ways I’ve found to experience multiple orgasms.”

Breathe mindfully: Exaggerate your breath. Inhale and exhale purposefully — as slowly and deeply as possible. As you near orgasm, you might be inclined to start taking quick, shallow breaths, but by breathing more deeply and being more mindful of your orgasmic contractions, you might find that they multiply. (If you want to learn more about breath and energy orgasms, check out the work of Barbara Carrellas.)

Change techniques: If your first orgasm results from clitoral stimulation, switch to the G-Spot at the first sign of orgasmic contractions. Exploring and activating multiple regions of the body may be one of the keys to multiples.

Push through: When you reach orgasm, the head of your clitoris can become hypersensitive, so you likely avoid direct contact. But if you push through and keep stimulating the area with your fingertips, a toy, or your partner’s lips, you might discover a simple path to multiples.

Grab a vibrator

Using a vibrator can be another effective way to have multiple orgasms. They help encourage more blood to flow to the vulva area, Dr. Tara explains, “which ultimately helps you come easier and potentially multiple times.” Vibrators also provide constant stimulation, along with different patterns and intensities depending on what gets you closer to climax. “You can use a vibrator made specifically to hold against the clit, and perhaps insert a dildo, or do a twofer with a rabbit vibrator,” says Riel. “These kinds of toys are designed to be more powerful than using a hand, so they are definitely a good way to get yourself more stimulated.”

Stimulate both the clitoris and the vagina

“A blended orgasm is an action of having both a clit and an internal vaginal orgasm simultaneously,” Riel says. “When both are mutually aroused, the resulting orgasm can be extremely intense. With this intensity comes heightened arousal, which in turn will make it easier to have multiple orgasms.”

Find a position that allows deep penetration.

For some of us, deep penetration is a must if we’re trying to orgasm, so opting for a sex position that brings your knees or legs back towards your shoulders is a good choice. Position choice is especially important if your partner isn’t super well-endowed, Dr. Tara adds. In those cases, she recommends a position like lifted missionary, which involves the receiving partner propping up their hips on a sex pillow. The pillow “allows you to angle your pelvic area up 45 degrees and that should help with deeper vaginal penetration,” she explains. (PS: here are more tips for having super-satisfying sex with any penis size and shape, plus other positions we recommend for the best orgasms ever.)

Use pornography or whatever turns you on

“It’ll be easier for you to have an intense orgasm if you have some form of stimulation that gets you aroused,” Riel says. It could be your favorite porn clip or a few pages of steamy erotica. If you’re more of an auditory person, maybe an erotic podcast or sexy audiobook will get you going. “Experiment and try to find what is that gets you going,” Riel recommends.

Remember that sex doesn’t have to be an outcome-oriented activity.

It’s easy to get caught up in the pursuit of an orgasm during sex, especially if you’re determined to have orgasms plural, but remember that sex isn’t really about achieving a goal — and you definitely shouldn’t feel like you’ve failed if you don’t orgasm multiple times. “I hope nobody feels ‘inadequate’ if they’ve never had multiple orgasms,” Dr. Tara agrees. “Having an orgasm is already amazing.”

Plus, sex doesn’t have to end in an orgasm. “Sometimes you can have sex for connection, exploration, and fun, and that’s already pleasurable,” Dr. Tara says. “You don’t need to pressure yourself to come every time.” If you’re having trouble orgasming multiple times, try dropping the “goal” part of it and just enjoying the time with yourself and/or your partner — you might find yourself feeling those feelings with a lot less effort expended.

A version of this story was published April 2019.

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