Is your guy hooking up at work?

Know His Business

Sure, it may get boring when he goes on and on about his pain-in-the-ass boss or other people he works with, but if he can’t talk to you about the workplace highs and lows, he may open up to someone who understands all the pressure he’s under. “The more you know, the more he can share with you and the less likely he’ll be to confide in his attractive coworker,” says Don-David Lusterman, Ph.D., author of Infidelity: A Survival Guide. To come across as genuinely interested (rather than annoyingly nosy), ask specific questions that address how he handled certain tasks or dealt with a difficult higher-up. Otherwise, it’s like pulling teeth. “If you simply ask him how work is or what’s up, he’ll say, ‘It’s fine’ or ‘Nothing,'” says Alon Gratch, Ph.D., author of If Men Could Talk. “But when you ask targeted questions, it’s easier to get him talking.” With some insight, you’ll also be able to determine if his late nights make sense or seem suspicious. Is he working on a project that would require him to work more hours or send him out of town for a long weekend? If he knows that you know what he’s up to, it’s harder for him to pull late nights or grab drinks with a cute coworker without any explanation.