Single women are entitled to just as much fun as men are. Believe it or not, relationships that are strictly sexual can work. And no, you aren’t a slut if you pick up the phone at 3:00 a.m. to make plans with your booty call. You’re single — enjoy it!
The booty call
| The booty call relationship is very simple if you can avoid developing any emotional or romantic feelings for your partner. |
How it works?
Booty calls are just that — partners that you call when you want to have sex. Generally, you aren’t good friends and you don’t hang out together. In fact, you rarely see your booty call except when having sex or planning to have sex. You don’t need to actually even call anymore — just text!
The key to a successful booty call relationship is that you both are on the same page. Neither partner is romantically interested in the other. Both people understand that the relationship is just sex and sex only. Dating other people is perfectly acceptable and you don’t spend much time talking about your private lives to each other. Spending the night after sex isn’t expected, and it’s oftentimes discouraged.
When to end it
The booty call relationship is very simple if you can avoid developing any emotional or romantic feelings for your partner. When one person starts developing feelings and the other still wants only sex, that’s when things can get ugly.
“I used to have a regular booty call that I would call at all hours of the night when I needed to ‘get some’,” says Rhonda (a 32-year-old boutique owner from Florida). “One night when he was leaving my place, he said he loved me. Our relationship came to a screeching halt immediately…and it’s too bad — the sex was AMAZING.”
Friends with benefits
How it works?
This relationship is primarily about friendship, but the added bonus is that you have sex sometimes. Usually these two people are good friends who hang out together in public, have common interests and enjoy each other’s company.
Friends with benefits communicate well and are not romantically interested in each other. This arrangement usually develops when both parties are not dating anyone else. If one partner happens to start a serious relationship with someone else, then normally the friends stop having sex (for the time being) and just continue to remain friends.
If you have a friend that you trust, and you have both hit a dry spell in the dating scene, this type of relationship may benefit you both.
“I have a male friend that I have known for eight years. We have sex every couple months whenever we are both unattached. It’s casual and cool. It’s good to have someone to get close to physically without all the emotional ties,” says Cynthia (a 29-year-old CEO in Philadelphia).
Stay safe
Casual sex doesn’t mean unsafe sex.
Be sure to protect yourself from STDs and pregnancy. Don’t rely on him to supply the condoms. Even if you are on the pill or another form of birth control, use a condom too to protect yourself from STDs.
Have fun! Relish in your single lifestyle and freedom.
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