Is your guy cheating? 11 Ways to tell

Check up on him

If he says he has to work late or is studying late, show up unexpectedly to bring him a gift, like coffee or a snack, to reward him for working so hard. If you don’t live with him, drive by his house to see if he’s home when he is supposed to be.

Set a trap

99.9% of the time, cheating men will cheat when their partner is out of town or when they are traveling. Tell your partner you are leaving for the weekend and then wait and watch. If he doesn’t come home all night, he could be at another woman’s house or at a hotel. Otherwise, he may bring the other woman to his or “your” home. Remember the old saying….”when the cat’s away, the mouse will play?” It’s very true.

Place a made-up profile online

Set your partner up by placing a fake profile online and see if he takes the bait. This can give you an indication of his character and dedication towards you.

Fake him out

Like in poker, bluff that you have a great hand. Tell him you know what he’s up to and that he had better tell you the truth. Ask him if he would be willing to take a lie detector test to give you piece of mind and see how he reacts. Lie detector tests have become affordable and are available in most major cities. Many men will lie to the very end but if you are a good enough actress, you may get the information you are looking for.

Watch for sudden behavioral changes

He’s not paying as much attention to you. He’s not interested in sex. He cancels time with you or comes home late often. He suddenly becomes more interested in his own appearance. He becomes defensive when you ask him questions and then tries to make you seem paranoid by blame switching. These could be indications that he’s seeing someone else.

Become your own private investigator

Place a voice-activated digital tape recorder in a discreet place such as under his car seat or bed. Make sure it has a long recording time that can record for many hours. I know many women who have caught their cheating partners this way but had to listen through hours of recording time. Be sure to check your local laws.

More on cheating

10 Signs he’s cheating on you
Will he cheat? Listen to his voice
Why men cheat (and how to avoid it)