For relationship and love enthusiasts, the five love languages are like the sexy cousin of astrology and Meyers Briggs personality types. They get people into thinking not just how they show affection but how they receive it and offer a glimpse into how the subtle actions and communications that make up the bulk of any relationship actually translate for the folks involved. Plus, they’re just fun.
For the uninitiated, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman is the book where these ideas come from. Basically, Chapman suggests that these five ways of expressing love — words of affirmation, acts of service, gift-giving or receiving, physical touch and quality time — are fundamental ways to understand how we show the people we care about that we care about them. It’s really sweet, yes, and it helps you get a better read on what your partner is communicating to you (even if they aren’t a words of affirmation kind of person).
So maybe your partner isn’t great a saying the perfect, sweetest words when you need to hear them most but they’re willing to do the dishes for you even when it’s supposed to be your turn. Odds are, they aren’t a “words of affirmation” person but are most definitely an “act of service person.” Or, let’s say, you hate receiving gifts but love cuddle time on the couch — you are not a “gift” person but are totally a “quality time” person. Make sense? Take the quiz if you’re not totally sure.
If you know your partner’s love language, here’s our advice on the best sexy Valentine’s Day presents you can pick up for them to blow them away. (Just make sure they don’t capital-H Hate receiving gifts first — because that’d defeat the purpose).
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Acts of Service: Meridian Grooming The Complete Package
Indulge your acts of service-loving partner with the gift of self care. This sleek razor is designed specifically to tidy up the nether region, and the accompanying “ball spray” combines witch hazel, green tea leaf extract, and other ingredients for a soothing, Ph-balacing effect. If you really want to up the ante, you can perform this grooming service yourself.
Acts of Service: Better Love Tap Dancer Clitoral Stimulator
Sold exclusively at Ella Paradis, Better Love’s Tap Dancer is about to become 2021’s hottest sex toy. This orgasmic clitoral stimulator is made with Tap Pleasure Technology that mimics human touch. In other words, prepare for their eyes to roll into the back of their head.
Physical Touch: Foria Awaken Arousal Oil
If you wanted to experiment with CBD in your sex life, Foria’s arousal oil is a great way to heighten just about all the sexy sensations while decreasing discomfort and keeping vulva-owners very, very happy.
Words of Affirmation: Voice Activated 10X Vibrating Egg with Remote Control
Much like your loved one with a Words of Affirmation LL, this vibe is turned on by the sound of your voice. It’s splashproof and features three speeds and seven patterns to mix things up.
Words of Affirmation: A Sex Journal
Journaling is always a good way to get your deepest, most special thoughts out into the world. This sex journal lets you and your word nerd partner share those thoughts together (with the option to flip back through and recite the greatest hits during future sessions).
Physical Touch: Massage Candle
If you want a two-fer out of your massage products, this candle that doubles as a sensual massage oil will keep you satsified. The vegan oil is made of a skin-softening jojoba and soybean oils that will leave you moisturized but not greasy. Notes of amber, cedar leaf, and lemongrass set up the perfect bedroom ambiance.
Physical Touch: Rub Me Massage Bar
You won’t be able to wait to get your hands on your partner with this sweet massage bar during a sweet couple’s bath time. Plus this bar will melt quickly with your body temperature to keep things moving smoothly as everything heats up.
Gifts: LELO TOR 2
A vibrating penis ring that’s prettier than the rest, TOR 2 is a great gift for your partner to help them last longer and get more out of sex. Which is definitely a gift that keeps on giving.
Gifts: Fifty Shades of Grey Pleasure Overload Kit
What better way to shower a gift-loving partner with affection than with multiple days of gifts? This calendar gift box has ten days of toys, suprises and treats to keep y’all entertained all week long.
Quality Time: Edible Chocolate Body Paint
Take your sweet time covering your partner with this chocolate body paint and you’re sure to enjoy every intimate moment. Plus, the quality time only continues when it comes time to lick the paint off.
Quality Time: Monogamy Game
This kinky version of Monopoly lets you and your partner explore NSFW fantasies, sexy dares and more to get things heated in the bedroom. The Strip square signals you take off a piece of clothing, the Drink and Food square directs you to sip or nibble on something in a suggestive way, and the Erotic Dancing square will encourage you to get physical.
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