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When it comes to spicing up your sex life, who doesn’t love losing or taking control every once in a while? Mixing up the power dynamics (safely!) can be a fun way to experiment with what you like and peek into whole new parts of your sexuality. And if you’re just starting out, investing in a pair of sex cuffs is a great way to round out your sex toy collection.
Before you get to shopping, an obligatory BDSM safety note: It’s important to always be extra attentive and mindful when playing with restraints, including bondage handcuffs. No matter if it’s your first time or you’re an old pro, safety is always a priority. The same goes for comfort level for all partners involved. Make sure everything feels comfortable, especially if you’re playing with sexy handcuffs for the first time, and that you’re mindful of circulation and any pressure being applied to different limbs.
Don’t forget about vocal consent and safe words. Talk about what you do and don’t want to happen while one partner has the reins — even if it’s just a list of “hell yes,” “hell no” and “maybe” activities. Make sure you have a safe word (even a simple stop light system will do!) or a hand signal if one of you isn’t able to talk. And, most importantly, make sure you’re prepared to talk before, during and after (aka aftercare!) to check in on everyone’s feelings.
Now that you feel confident and comfortable with all the safety and consent involved, let’s get to shopping. There’s a variety of sex positions with handcuffs you can try out with any of the cuffs we’ve found below. Take a look and see what might be the best fit for you and your partner(s) — and from there, enjoy some safe and satisfying playtime with these best-of-the-best handcuffs for sex.
Crave ID Cuffs
These ID cuffs from Crave (the brand that made the iconic Vesper vibrator necklace) are a fashionable and functional leather option for everyday and after-dark wear. You can also personalize them with something special for yourself or your partner, which is a cute personal touch to add. We love them because they’re just subtle enough to be worn out and about, but with a sexy pop that’ll have people looking twice.
Quickie Cuffs
By far the easiest pair of cuffs for beginners, this silicone option is quick to slide on and off without keys, velcro, or any additional fuss. As as bonus, they’re also lightweight, waterproof, and hypoallergenic. And don’t be fooled by the fact that you can just slip them off on your own — the best power-plays are in your own mind, after all.
Liberator Talea Spreader Bar Cushion with Cuffs
As far as portable sex furniture goes, a padded spreader bar with built-in ankle and wrist cuffs is so easy to love. Great for adjusting different positions and exploring different degrees of vulnerability, this one from Liberator is also easy to clean and put away. You can use it to spread your or your partner’s arms or legs, sliding it under the shoulders or neck to explore new positions in comfort.
Orion Cuffs
Bright, bold, and blue, Unbound’s vegan leather cuffs are comfortable, pretty and sturdy options for any couple. You can either use the cuffs on their own or clip them to the strap to experiment with different scenarios — try slipping the strap over the door or attaching it to the bed frame.
Sex Bondage BDSM Kit UTIMI Restraints
Under-the-bed restraints are ideal for making use of a bed discreetly without needing a whole ornate headboard situation (because that’s just not everyone’s interior design sense!). Easy to attach, detach, and store away while keeping you and your partner comfortable as you play, this sexy kit is also a solid deal at under $20.
Frisky Hands Up! Suction Cup Cuffs
Shower sex is a squeaky clean sexual challenge in its own right. These cuffs, complete with suction cups, can be attached to another surface — including your shower wall. Of course, if shower sex isn’t your jam (it’s not for everyone!) you can also attach the suction cups to your headboard or bedroom wall. Either way, this cuff set provides for a convenient, versatile restraint to help you play safely!
Adult Plush Handcuffs Ankle Bracelets
A classic pair of furry cuffs, these plush cuffs for your wrists and ankles keep you and your partner comfortable all night long. Note that the chain that comes with these cuffs is a little shorter, so make sure that’s what you’re looking for — then enjoy the soft, sexy restraint.
Unbound Bangle Handcuff Bracelet
A revised take on their OG bangle cuffs, Unbound designed these gorgeous bangles that can be used for light restraint play. Coming in silver and gold, these are fairly stealth and the untrained eye might miss them. But for you and your partner, it can be exciting to know you’ve got a toy on hand outside the bedroom. A lot of sex toy jewelry can be hit or miss on the cute factor, but these ones definitely nail it.
Maze Wide Cuffs
These thick, Wonder Woman-esque wide cuffs can also be worn as jewelry on one wrist as well as in play. We love that they’re made of soft, sensual vegan leather that moves with you but retains its shape and style. It all comes together to make these cuffs are a cute and versatile stylistic choice in and out of the bedroom.
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