We’ve seen our fair share of immaturity and pettiness on Reddit. But this latest family drama might take the cake. It certainly took the noodles (more on that later). And honestly, we — like Redditors — live for pettiness. We’ll never forget that mother-in-law who sent her daughter-in-law a $200 invoice (a $200 invoice!) for a chair that the daughter-in-law accidentally cracked when she sat down? Are you serious? We could go on and on about the ridiculousness of that one, but we have another petty matter at hand.
A mom joined the “Am I The A—hole? (AITA)” to talk about an altercation with her 13-year-old son Colby and her current husband. Colby’s father currently lives in Japan. The teen has been there multiple times to visit and “fell in love with it.” Because it’s JAPAN! How could he not?
The woman who originally posted (the “OP” in Reddit terms) also shares a 9-year-old daughter with her current husband, who seemingly has not been to Japan. She wanted to try some of her half-brother’s Japanese food and things got way out of hand. Because people are ridiculous and grown men prove time and time again that they are actually children.
The Start
Colby reportedly begged OP to let him live in Japan with his dad for a year.
“And while it broke my fn heart and gave me extreme anxiety, I agreed,” she said, “I couldn’t say no.”
After spending a year there, he came back this past August.
What He Misses
OP said that her son has made a few comments about missing Japanese food. And again we say, “Because it’s JAPAN[ese food]! How could he not?” So OP wanted to introduce some Japanese cuisine back into Colby’s life.
OP’s Plan
Though she can’t remember the exact name, OP said Colby’s favorite food is “some type of noodles with a dark brown spicy sauce.”
“So I went through a few websites, got a hold of his dad, etc and I was able to get some of the ingredients [including the noodles and the sauce] and recipes shipped out to me … so my son can prepare it for himself at home, as well as buying him the fresh ingredients needed,” OP said. How thoughtful!
Colby’s Predicament
The other day, Colby’s little sister asked if she could have some of his noodles and he said no — but not because he was being a jerk.
“He only said no because he’s made the dish for her before and she wasted the entire thing because it was too spicy,” OP said.
Colby reminded her that she doesn’t like it, and before the 9-year-old could respond, OP’s husband insisted that Colby share.
“So I stepped in and said no, and that she’s already had it and threw it in the trash and this is his food,” OP said. “He doesn’t have to share his food.”
The Breaking Point
On the morning of OP’s post, her son asked where his four packages of noodles went, and his stepdad told him he ate them.
“I asked why TF he would do that and he said ‘because I wanted to,'” OP said. “To me this felt like a big ‘f*ck you’ because I told him my son didn’t have to share his food, so I did lose it.”
“He did this on purpose,” OP continued. “I just know it. I told him he was a f*cking pig on a power trip and he should be ashamed of himself for eating my son’s food.”
Meanwhile, her husband called her “ridiculous” and an “a—hole” for calling him a pig given his weight “simply because he was hungry and wanted to eat.”
Everyone in OP’s life apparently thinks she’s the a—hole here, but she’s now asking the internet, “AITA for flipping out after my husband ate my son’s food?”
Reddit’s Reaction
Who are these people that think OP is the AH? They’re certainly not on Reddit! Reddit firmly believes OP’s hubby is the AH, and they don’t think he should hold the title of “hubby” for much longer.
“Your husband seems to be on a power trip and I’m thinking there was more than one reason your son wanted to live with his father in Japan so much. Yeah, it’s just food. HOWEVER it’s food that was purchased by your son’s father and then shipped to him from Japan. It belongs to your son and your son only. He does not have to give it to anyone he doesn’t want to as it’s a gift from his father. I really think you need to have a private conversation with your son, away from your husband, and ask him if your husband treats him poorly when you’re not around. I honestly wouldn’t be surprised if the answer was yes. Also, eating four packages of noodles in one sitting just to dominate your 13-year-old son is both a pig thing to do, and extremely immature. It’s the equivalent of licking all the cookies so no one else can have one.”
“I’m pretty sure he would lick all the cookies just so no one else could have one. We were already on the fast track to divorce honestly,” OP responded to that Redditor.
“I sincerely think it’s time to pull the trigger on it. I guarantee you he’s either been doing or saying things without you knowing to put your son down,” the Redditor said back.
“I agree,” another Redditor said. “Treating a child this way, dealing with not getting your way in such a petty malicious way … These should be drops that make the bucket overflow. The last straw. Time to pull the trigger on the marriage if it was already on the chopping block.”
“Girl speed that up.”
“Expeditiously. Don’t start the new year with dead weight.”
“Who paid the cost of shipping the food? Cause I heard it can get a bit pricy, plus your co-parent has to go out and get the food. Your hopefully soon-to-be ex threw up a big F-You to you, your minor son, and your co-parent, all because his daughter couldn’t have something she never actually liked?”
One helpful Redditor jumped in to share that it would be $200 (TWO. HUNDRED. DOLLARS.) to ship something from Chicago to Osaka. And OP’s husband was immature and vindictive enough to flush that money down the drain.
And it sounds like his marriage is following close behind.
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